alternative lifestyles: Kink & poly inclusive therapy

You deserve therapy where all parts of your life are respected and understood—including your sexuality, relationships, and identity.

For many people, alternative erotic lifestyles are much more than just play—they’re a path toward healing, self-acceptance, and connection. Kink and polyamory can be a way to reclaim agency, explore trust, and rewrite old stories. But too often, people exploring these lifestyles are met with judgment, shame, or misunderstanding — even in therapy.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to leave parts of yourself at the door when talking to a therapist, you’re not alone. I work with individuals and couples who want a space where their full erotic, emotional, and relational selves are welcome.

The transformational potential of kink

I believe that kink can be a profoundly positive and transformational practice—one that helps people move through trauma, deepen intimacy, and reclaim their bodies and desires. Many of my clients come to therapy carrying wounds from earlier experiences: neglect, abuse, religious shame, or simply years of not being seen or accepted. Kink, when practiced intentionally with care and consent, can offer a way to renegotiate power, reconnect with sensation, and experience vulnerability within a controlled container.

Kink doesn’t have to be separate from healing—it can be healing

Our erotic selves do not need to be a cordoned off section of our lives - hidden beneath shame and fear. Often the very things we were shamed for are the places where our deepest healing lives. Kink can offer experiences of containment, trust, surrender, and choice—things that trauma often takes away. In therapy, we can work together to understand what your body and nervous system are asking for through your desires, and how to meet those needs in ways that feel empowering, embodied, and safe.

Conscious kink allows people to transmute pain into pleasure - which can then be integrated into one’s life.

The expansive possibilities of polyamory

Ethical non-monogamy invites a reimagining of what love, commitment, and belonging can look like when they’re not bound by hierarchy, ownership, or scarcity. It can open the door to honest communication, self-inquiry, and the freedom to build relationships that reflect your values—not just social expectations. For many, it’s not just about having multiple partners, but about cultivating authenticity, emotional resilience, and a deepened capacity for connection.

Many find that open or polyamorous relationships offer the freedom to explore intimacy on their own terms—terms shaped by authenticity, fluidity, and care. In doing so, non-monogamy can create opportunities to repair attachment wounds: learning to trust, to be seen, to hold space for difference, and to feel secure even when connection is shared. It can teach us that love doesn’t have to be earned or controlled—that it can be chosen, again and again, with honesty and presence.

There are unique challenges and gifts that come with this path - and you need a therapist who truly understands them. I can personally attest to how hard it is to find someone who is not just poly-friendly but actually knows what it’s like. Together we can explore feelings of jealousy, insecurity, or fear while also honoring the resilience, creativity, and connection that non-monogamous relationships can foster. You don’t need to justify your identity or your relationship structure to me. This is a space to deepen into who you are, how you love, and what you long for—without judgment.

What We Might Explore Together…

• Using kink as a somatic pathway for trauma healing

• Navigating jealousy and boundaries in poly dynamics

• Exploring shame or internal conflict around your desires

• Creating safety and clarity in D/s or M/s relationships

• Reclaiming agency through conscious play

• Processing past relational or sexual trauma

• Deepening intimacy in kinky and/or poly partnerships

• Integrating erotic identities into a holistic sense of oneself

No need to hide here

You don’t have to explain or justify your lifestyle to me. You won’t be asked to tone things down or speak in code. I bring a trauma-informed, kink-aware, poly-affirming, body-based lens to our work together, grounded in curiosity, safety, and respect.

Whether you’re brand new or a seasoned practitioner, you’re welcome here—fully.